Trauma therapy online in Oregon & Washington

You find yourself constantly on edge in your relationships. 

• Seasonal and Hallmark holidays celebrating parents are difficult because you’re balancing the boundaries you’ve put in place for your own sake and the constant pressure to spend time with and celebrate your family. 

• You’re overextending yourself to be “nice” and accommodating towards others, but also feeling exhausted from carrying the brunt of the responsibility in your relationships - always doing the reaching out, always doing the planning of the hang outs. You want to tell someone how you’re feeling, but you also don’t want to hear “why didn’t you say something?”

• Similarly, you often think about setting boundaries in your relationships, but you’re afraid of hurting others’ feelings for even one moment. Worse yet, you worry others will push you away if you do make your needs known. Worse still, you can’t let go of the thought that they’ll just forget what you said and you’ll have to have the same conversation over and over, and you’d rather just not.

You’ve struggled with this for as long as you can remember - you don’t remember a “before.” You’ve gotten so used to making yourself and your needs small in your relationships. You’re simultaneously not surprised and completely let down when others don’t get you or don’t show up for you. You might feel stuck between a desire to create some kind of change and thoughts of “it doesn’t even matter.”

Your needs do matter.

It may feel impossible now, but you can feel whole again (or for the first time). You can have a great relationship with yourself and chosen others. You can put trauma behind you. And I can help you get there.

I often hear people who have experienced trauma say: 

• “I know it wasn’t my fault or I shouldn’t feel bad… but I still wish I would have done something differently.” 

• “I know I’m not a bad person… but I can’t shake that thought.” 

• “I know what I’m doing isn’t working… but I don’t know what else to do.” 

My approach to therapy is focused on how we get that logical “knowing” to seep down into deeper parts of the brain so that you don’t have to keep feeling conflicted between your “logical self” and “emotional self.” Instead, you’ll feel more aligned with genuinely believing those things you “know.”

I help clients engage in a more meaningful level of processing than traditional talk therapy offers. With somatic approaches such as Brainspotting and EMDR, you’ll learn how to tap into your brain’s natural healing processes to heal from trauma and all of the ways trauma has held you back from living your life.

I’ll help through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances.

I’ve spent years researching and working with attachment and trauma, and have a particular passion for working with attachment trauma.

My approach to trauma therapy comes from a place of considering all aspects of who you are as an individual: helping you to gain and maintain an authentic mind-body connection with yourself so that you can feel more stable, secure, and able to trust and rely on others again - or for the first time. 

We’ll spend time in therapy helping you understand the relationship between your past and your present feelings, and understand how much of your emotions and patterns today are about the past and how much is about what’s happening today so you can learn to heal from your past and respond to the pain today in a more helpful way.

And with my certification as a Clinical Trauma Professional Level II, you can trust you’re working with someone who thoroughly understands how to show up for you and support you in therapy.